On astrology, signs from the universe, and why we explore what we can't always explain.
I was on my bike, a basket full of books, riding across Coronado to deliver our very first Chrysalis Circle reads to our new members.
I was nervous. Chrysalis was a big leap for The Monarch Soul, and I wasn't sure it was the right one. So as I pedaled, I asked quietly: Show me I'm going in the right direction.
A moment later, a white feather drifted down out of nowhere and landed right on me. It felt like slow motion.
I laughed. I may have teared up. And I kept riding.
"But how do you know it's true?"
People ask me this all the time. How do you know astrology works? How do you know the universe sends signs?
My honest answer: I don't.
But I've seen a lot.
A medium we hosted once asked the room whose grandfather had a shelf lined with beer steins. One of our members froze. It was her grandpa, and her exact memory.
An astrologer once told me the precise date something in my life would shift. That day came, and I received a call about a new opportunity.
I've watched people moved to tears when something lands so precisely there's no other word for it but meant.
Coincidence? Maybe. But after enough of them, I stopped asking whether I could prove it. I started asking a better question.
The stories we choose shape the lives we live
Two people can live through the same moment and walk away with different stories. One sees an ending, the other an invitation. One sees failure, the other a lesson. One sees a feather, the other sees a sign.
Not everything happens for a reason we can understand. Some things are painful and unfair, and we don't have to dress hardship up as a gift.
But we do get to choose how we meet the unknown. If I get to choose, I'll choose the beliefs that make me more hopeful, more grateful, and more connected.
If believing the universe is winking at me helps me notice beauty, I'll look for the wink. If the stars invite me to slow down and reflect, I'll look up.
That's not because I can prove it. It's because of who I become when I make room for it.
A better question than "Is it true?"
I'm not saying stop asking questions. I'm saying ask better ones:
What kind of life does this belief help me create?
- Does it make me more present?
- Does it help me trust myself?
- Does it make me kinder to myself and others?
- Does it leave room for discernment, and for the possibility that I'm wrong?
For me, spirituality isn't about having every answer. It's about being willing to sit with the questions.
Why I created Chrysalis Circle
I wanted a space where women could explore the things that fascinate us, challenge us, and sometimes leave us wondering what on earth to make of them.
Who are we, really? Why are we here? Is our intuition worth listening to? How much of our lives do we shape with what we believe?
Chrysalis isn't a place where someone stands at the front of the room and tells you what to believe. We explore together. Each month we meet. We read a book, try a practice, and gather for conversation, ritual, and the occasional medium or astrologer who leaves the whole room speechless.
Sometimes something resonates deeply. Sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes we leave with more questions than we came with. All of that belongs here.
A few books that started the conversation
Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks
What happens when you become conscious of where your attention goes?
The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein
It's about moving from fear toward faith, and meeting uncertainty with curiosity instead of control. Sometimes trust simply means believing you can find your way through.
Ask Your Guides by Sonia Choquette
Whether you call it spirit, intuition, or the wisdom that comes when you finally get quiet, the invitation is to listen. How often do we already know what we need and talk ourselves out of it?
You don't have to accept every idea in these books to find something worth keeping. That's the point.
Your invitation
You can be grounded and spiritual. You can question and still believe. You can explore an idea without making it your identity, and you can change your mind.
You don't need a spiritual background. You don't need to know a thing about astrology, manifestation, or energy. You don't need to believe everything we explore.
Just bring an open mind and a willingness to be curious.
Transformation doesn't always begin with certainty. Sometimes it begins with a question. Sometimes it begins with a feather.
